There are many words, terms and concepts used to express love in Arabic, particularly in Islam’s basic sources, the Quran and sunnah (practices of the Prophet). Some writers who have compiled books related to this subject say that the number is as great as sixty. A number of these have been used in both the Quran and hadiths (sayings of the Prophet). Some of these are words and terms that, even though they are found in both sources, are used in language and literary texts, especially poetry. Many of these words and terms have been used since ancient times. Just as some had changes of meaning during the Islamic period, others were passed through a phase of conceptualization.
Thus, even though for centuries in Muslim societies there have been differences among race, color and geography, generally unity and integrity have been maintained on the points of belief and practice. This holds true for a more or less unified understanding of love, as well. Allah and Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), mother and father, spouse and children, brothers and sisters, close and remote relatives, Muslims and mankind, all animate things and nature have been common areas of interest and love among Muslims. In particular, architectural works and institutions produced throughout the centuries in places where governments set up by the Muslim Turkish nation were permanently located are witnesses today that reflect love of Allah, the Prophet, the Quran, Ahl al-bayt (family of the Prophet), and the Companions and of compassion and mercy for all living things. While speaking of love, affection, mercy and compassion, thinking of these all together will help us to understand and perceive to what degree and in what dimensions the subject has permeated our civilization. I will attempt to frame the subject within the Quran-Sunnah twosome, which comprises the origin and essence of all of these.
It is necessary to dwell on the word mahabba, which is first on the list of words and terms expressing love. Actually all words and terms used to express love are derivatives of this word; for this reason, they have very close meanings. Many meanings have been given to mahabba. One of the most important ones, with necessity and constancy coming from its root, expresses that the name of the beloved and its remembrance are never absent from the heart. For the reason that it carries the meaning of purity and clearness, love and friendship which is pure and unadulterated is called mahabba.
Because love is inclined towards the one loved by the heart, it was debated whether or not love should be used for Allah. Although some scholars, not accepting this, said that the purpose of love for Allah was to worship Him, most Islamic scholars brought forth clear evidence for the existence of love of Allah in the Quran and sunnah. As a result, they agreed that it is mandatory (fard) to love Allah and Prophet Muhammad. In some Quranic verses Allah says, “Allah loves them, and they love Allah” (Al-Maida 5/54); “Love of believers for God is more advanced and stronger than anything” (Al-Baqara 2/165); “Say: If ye do love God, Follow me: God will love you” (Al-i Imran 3/31).
In hadiths the Prophet Muhammad spoke of love for Allah in such a clear and precise way that no interpretation is needed: “As long as one among you does not love Allah and the Prophet more than anything else, he does not have true faith” (Bukhari, “Faith” 9, 14; Muslim, “Faith” 66-67; Tirmizi, “Faith” 10).
It is possible to examine love from various aspects. The Quran painstakingly mentions those who Allah loves. Being a servant Allah loves is the highest and most honorable rank and the most valuable and worthy station and position. Knowing this shows every individual Muslim the path and direction to the qualities he needs to possess and who he needs to love. For this reason, I think it will be more appropriate to touch along general lines on the subject of those who Allah loves:
Allah loves the benevolent (muhsin). Deriving from the ihsan infinitive, the word muhsin, along with its plural, is among the words that pass frequently in the Quran. Ihsan includes goodness and doing good, beauty and beautiful behavior. Also the Prophet defined ihsan as “Serving Allah as if you see Him” (Bukhari, “Faith” 37; Muslim, “Faith” 1; Abu Davud, “Sunnah” 16; Tirmizi, “Faith” 4; Ibn Mace, “Preface” 9). Those who spend in Allah’s path in prosperity and poverty, those who swallow their anger, and those who forgive others’ mistakes are the benevolent ones that Allah loves.
Another word that is widely used for love is mawadda. The root of this word comes from the wudd infinitive meaning friendship and affection, and loving something and wishing for it. One who loves and has a lot of love is called wudd. The purest, most delicate and most refined love is called wudd. This word is used with various derivatives in both the Quran and hadiths. The word mawadda has been used in the Quran with the meanings friendship, loyalty, and affection: “But if good fortune comes to you from God, they would be sure to say –as if there had never been ties of affection between you and them- ‘Oh! I wish I had been with them; a fine thing should I then have made of it!’” (Al-Nisaa 4/73). Allah creates love in the hearts of those who believe and make righteousness; this love is called wudd (Al-Maryam 19/96). The Prophet explained the contents of this verse in one of his hadiths: “When Allah loves one of His servants, he says to Gabriel: ‘I love such and such a person; you love him/her, too.’ Gabriel loves that person and exclaims to the angels in the heavens: ‘Allah loved such and such a person; you love him/her, too.’ Then the angels love that person. Later, love for that person settles in the hearts of those on earth and spreads among people” (Bukhari, “Unity” 33; Muslim, “Righteousness” 137). The love Allah created between man and wife is also called wudd (Rum 30/21).
One of Allah’s beautiful names is Wadud. This name means, from Allah’s point of view, that He is very much loved by His “friends” and is the source of love. From the servant’s point of view it expresses that Allah has wished goodness for His creatures and loves and gives approval to His pious servants.
The practical benefits of affection and love can briefly be expressed as follows:
In the texts of the Quran and sunnah, which take on the important task of understanding and explaining manifestations of love, one of the concepts most used together with its derivatives is compassion and mercy. Rahma (mercy) has the same meaning as marhama and denotes not begrudging anyone and feeling pity and compassion.
When the word rahma is used relative to Allah, His favor and every kind of goodness and blessing for His servants is meant, but not tenderness. For tenderness is a state or quality of the heart and only pertains to humans. The name Rahman (Merciful) is a derivative of rahma and belongs only to Allah, not to His servants. Rahim, on the other hand, is also a quality of the created so, for this reason, it is also given to humans. It is said that Allah is the Rahman of this world and the Rahim of the next world. This means: His favor, goodness, blessings and grace extend to everyone, believers and non-believers; the next world pertains only to believers.
One of the meanings of rahma is forgiveness of sins. While talking about rahma and marhama, other qualities that complete the topic and should not be forgotten are: pity and non-begrudgingness; tenderness, delicacy, and compassion; bestowing favors; generosity; protection; affection, making things easier; and getting along well with family and others.
Works of Allah’s rahma and marhama presented in the Quran can be briefly mentioned as follows:
For a topic that the Quran treats with this much sensitivity, it is natural that this subject finds a sufficient area for application in the Prophet’s sunnah and is one of the most frequently found topics in hadiths. As a matter of fact, there are hundreds of authentic hadiths related to mercy and compassion both in regard to the Prophet’s life style and other applications. History mentions many important successes of Prophet Muhammad in various fields. In my opinion, a matter that needs to be added is this: His greatest success is that in a society which is known to be uncivilized and one that Arabs, themselves, call “Ignorance,” he was able to produce an exemplary “society of love and mercy” in a very short period of time. Truly the generation of companions, which has no equal in the history of mankind and which gathered within itself outstanding qualities, rightfully carries the distinction of being an “exemplary generation.” As is true for all subjects, we have a great deal to learn from them on the topic of love, mercy and compassion.
Our Prophet’s basic principles on the subject of mercy and compassion have been put forth; we will suffice with pointing out some of them.